1 in 10 new fathers hit by post-partum depression

August 3, 2015

Unlike previously thought, post-partum depression not only affects mothers. but also fathers, too. Below are the signs of Paternal Post-Partum Depression” (PPPD):

Generally, most men are far more likely to try to deny their depression, which often worsens the symptoms.

The best person to spot any behavioural changes is one’s spouse, and the main things to watch out for include:

• Depressed, sad mood

• Loss of interest or pleasure in doing things they normally enjoy doing

• Significant weight loss or gain

• Trouble sleeping or over-sleeping

• Restlessness (unable to stay still or slow down)

• Fatigue, loss of energy, or tired all the time

• Worthless or guilty feelings

• Poor concentration, difficulty making decisions

• Constantly thinking of death or suicide

One of the biggest problems is that most men will not acknowledge feelings of sadness, hopelessness or guilt.

What this means is that the classic symptoms of depression may not be as accurate.

Other symptoms that may surface include:

• Impulsiveness and unnecessary risk-taking (e.g. reckless driving or extramarital sex)

• More complaints about physical problems

• Experiencing conflict between how you think you should be as a man and how you actually are

Remember that you do not need to experience all these symptoms to be depressed. Equally important is the intensity of the symptoms, not just the number of symptoms that manifest.

Always keep in mind the fact that this is a highly treatable condition. There is absolutely no reason for you to continue suffering from them.

While postpartum depression in men is a serious (and in extreme cases even life-threatening) condition, you can recover from it.

How you can cope

There are a few things you can do to manage this problem.

One of the most important is to ensure that you do not neglect yourself. While it is important to take care of baby, it is equally important to take care of your own needs. Make sure you get enough rest, eat healthily, and believe in yourself as a father.

Always remember that your spouse is your partner. Instead of keeping all your feelings bottled up, share your feelings with her.

Regardless of whether she can do anything about them, sharing your feelings allows you to talk through your emotional states and thoughts. Sometimes, that’s all it takes for you to feel less burdened!

Postpartum depression is a medical issue that should be addressed, not shunted aside or ignored. Make it a point to seek help – you can consult a doctor or psychologist who can guide you on how you can handle it.

In addition to medical/professional help, you can also talk to your family and friends. Remember, the first step is to acknowledge that you have PPPD and to know that you are not alone.

It will take courage and determination to overcome the problem. The best way to accomplish this is by taking positive action such as seeking medical/professional advice and confronting it head-on.

Don’t wait if you think that you may have any kind of negative feelings toward yourself or your baby. Don’t suffer any longer than necessary – get help now.

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